An Angry Man's Guide to Personal Loss and Acceptance

An Angry Man's Guide to Personal Loss and Acceptance
Author: Troy Alfeo
Publisher: Page Publishing Inc
Total Pages: 145
Release: 2023-09-07
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN:

Don't be angry all the time! Sage advice for an Angry Man. Has uncontrollable rage driven away your children, led to your divorce, and left you alone, filled with remorse? Do you wonder if you will ever cope with your explosive rage, get through your pain, lead a physically healthy, emotionally positive, spiritual life? Like many middle-aged men who experienced alienation from their children or bitter divorce, Troy Alfeo shows that his personal tragedies could have been avoided if he had seen the patterns of his explosive rage and uncontrollable anger beforehand. He shows how years of such behavior eventually left him totally isolated, alone, and cut off from the ones he loved. He speaks frankly about the violence that he visited upon his loved ones and friends. This a book about anger so destructive that those he loved were forced to stay away from him out of fear. It is also a story about redemption and the attempts to repair these broken relationships. The author provides a road map back to normalcy, some cognitive behavioral therapy, as well as a number of positive steps you can incorporate in your life right now that will help you come to terms with your own inner Angry Man. The author recognizes the damage one's angry behavior causes to relationships and that it may not be repairable. The author maintains there are tools for dealing with this specific challenge, too, especially estrangement from one's own children. He provides practical, concise guidance on how to deal with this particular problem and notes that if you have suffered from it, the most difficult part of your journey back to normalcy may be that you might not ever see or hear from your children ever again. The author posits, "What are you going to do when that happens?" Troy Alfeo provides a solution that works for him. The author freely admits that although he is still a very Angry Man by temperament, it is now a beast under his control, not controlling him. He has successfully started on the road to anger management and has slowly begun to rekindle lost relationships with his estranged children. Succinct and to the point, Troy Alfeo discusses the following topics: Life has no "do-overs." If you have screwed up your family relationships, you are stuck with it. Own it and embrace it. Your life will be better for it. Angry emotions make you stupid. Don't believe it? Read what happened to Troy Alfeo when he interacted with his children under a dark cloud of rage. Your anger will alienate you from everyone. Put simply, people will not want to be around you, and they may even eventually come around to hate you. You might even get fired from your job. That happened to Troy Alfeo too. Did you even love your wife? No? Is that why you were angry? When did the emotional distance between you and your spouse begin? Do you know? Do your children hate you now? How do you fix and change that? Why divorce is the worst thing that could ever happen to your children. So avoid it! Coping strategies, to include developing a life of meaning and finding love again. Solutions for today that you wished you had known about yesterday. 118

The Storms Can't Hurt the Sky

The Storms Can't Hurt the Sky
Author: Gabriel Cohen
Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong Books
Total Pages: 290
Release: 2009-03-12
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 0786746459

Buddhism has been applied to everything from parenting to golf, but until now no one has offered Buddhist principles as a healing path through divorce. In Storms Can't Hurt the Sky, Gabriel Cohen bravely delves into his personal experience-along with insights from Buddhist masters, parables, humor, social science studies, and interviews with other divorces-to provide a practical and very helpful guide to surviving the pain of any break-up. Focusing on the emotions most common in the dissolution of a relationship-anger, resentment, loss, and grief -- Storms Can't Hurt the Sky shows how thinking about these feelings in surprisingly different ways can lead to a radically better experience. This compulsively readable book offers sound advice and much-needed empathy for anyone dealing with a break-up.

The Man Puzzle

The Man Puzzle
Author: Phillip Petree
Publisher: Petree Publishing
Total Pages: 289
Release: 2015-08-19
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 0996402527

Are you confused by men? Written in an open, honest and straight forward manner, The Man Puzzle starts at the beginning and covers what goes into making a good man (and what goes wrong) and then moves through how men communicate, how men argue, what male emotions look like, how men test you during dating, what men really think about sex and all the way through what happens when men break-up including how men grieve. Based on interviews with 1000's of men, the author opens the door, peels back the curtain and shows you the heart, mind and soul of men.

Beyond Anger: A Guide for Men

Beyond Anger: A Guide for Men
Author: Thomas J. Harbin
Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong Books
Total Pages: 298
Release: 2018-07-31
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 0738234796

A revised and updated edition of the popular self-help book for men that addresses contemporary issues and how they impact the way men deal with anger Men tend to express their anger differently than women do. Research shows men are often more violent and less willing to confront and deal with their emotions than women. Written by a psychologist who specializes in the treatment of male rage, Beyond Anger shows the angry--and miserable--man how to change his life and relationships for the better. This book helps men understand their anger by explaining what the specific symptoms of chronic anger are and by showing angry men how their actions negatively affect family, friends, and coworkers. It helps men control violent feelings by using simple exercises--developed especially for men--to identify when and why anger occurs and by helping them form new habits to prevent anger before it starts. Women, too, will learn essential strategies for understanding and helping the angry men in their lives. Beyond Anger is honest, tough, and real. In this revised edition, Harbin will update references throughout and discuss new topics such as the role of the internet and social media in fueling anger and how to protect yourself against these pitfalls, as well as a discussion on anger and aging, the political landscape and anger, PTSD, a brand-new section on preventing relapse into anger, and many other relevant, timely topics.

The Politics Of Disability: A Guide for Men

The Politics Of Disability: A Guide for Men
Author: Peter Wright
Publisher: Disability-Press
Total Pages: 21
Release: 2018-03-26
Genre: Law
ISBN:

In recent years the disability sector has seen the rise of political ideologies directing the provision of services and supports to disabled persons; Marxist, radical feminist, and social justice extremism being the more obvious among them. Such imposed frameworks have important implications for the quality of care received by service users, and to whom services might be tailored, though few academics have acknowledged their impact on men with disabilities. As described in the following pages the negative impact of such ideologies is disproportionally borne by male service users whose experiences and needs are often neglected. The authors describe some of the more problematic issues and offer positive suggestions for men to both identify and hopefully navigate their way around these biases. The first chapter by Hanna Wallen looks at recent feminist advocacy for people with disabilities, which amounts to a gendering of what are essentially genderless issues. The result of such gendering is to exclude men from important service considerations, creating a selective practice that amounts to an attack on men’s civil rights. The subsequent three chapters by Peter Wright were first published in 2015 at the Men's Mental Health Network which have been updated for this volume. These essays explore the experience of men with disabilities living in a world that often fails to meet reasonable expectations, particularly in areas of provision of care, and protections against violence and abuse. The articles discuss possible reasons for these failures, in particular the creep of gynocentric attitudes in the disability sector, while offering positive encouragement for men to self-advocate, where possible, in their own best interest.

Competitive Grieving

Competitive Grieving
Author: Nora Zelevansky
Publisher: Blackstone Publishing
Total Pages: 333
Release: 2021-05-11
Genre: Fiction
ISBN: 1094007854

An Entertainment Weekly Pick of Summer’s Best New Books Wren’s closest friend, her anchor since childhood, is dead. Stewart Beasley. Gone. She can’t quite believe it and she definitely can’t bring herself to google what causes an aneurysm. Instead of weeping or facing reality, Wren has been dreaming up the perfect funeral plans, memorial buffets, and processional songs for everyone from the corner bodega owner to her parents (none of whom show signs of imminent demise). Stewart was a rising TV star, who—for reasons Wren struggles to understand—often surrounded himself with sycophants, amusing in his life, but intolerable in his death. When his icy mother assigns Wren the task of disseminating his possessions alongside George (Stewart’s maddening, but oddly charming lawyer), she finds herself at the epicenter of a world in which she wants no part, where everyone is competing to own a piece of Stewart’s memory (sometimes literally). Remembering the boy Stewart was and investigating the man he became, Wren finds herself wondering, did she even know this person who she once considered an extension of herself? Can you ever actually know anyone? How well does she really know herself? Through laughter and tears, Nora Zelevansky’s Competitive Grieving shines a light on the universal struggle to grieve amidst the noise, to love with a broken heart, and to truly know someone who is gone forever.

Finding Meaning

Finding Meaning
Author: David Kessler
Publisher: Scribner
Total Pages: 272
Release: 2019-11-05
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 1501192736

In this groundbreaking new work, David Kessler—an expert on grief and the coauthor with Elisabeth Kübler-Ross of the iconic On Grief and Grieving—journeys beyond the classic five stages to discover a sixth stage: meaning. In 1969, Elisabeth Kübler Ross first identified the stages of dying in her transformative book On Death and Dying. Decades later, she and David Kessler wrote the classic On Grief and Grieving, introducing the stages of grief with the same transformative pragmatism and compassion. Now, based on hard-earned personal experiences, as well as knowledge and wisdom earned through decades of work with the grieving, Kessler introduces a critical sixth stage. Many people look for “closure” after a loss. Kessler argues that it’s finding meaning beyond the stages of grief most of us are familiar with—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance—that can transform grief into a more peaceful and hopeful experience. In this book, Kessler gives readers a roadmap to remembering those who have died with more love than pain; he shows us how to move forward in a way that honors our loved ones. Kessler’s insight is both professional and intensely personal. His journey with grief began when, as a child, he witnessed a mass shooting at the same time his mother was dying. For most of his life, Kessler taught physicians, nurses, counselors, police, and first responders about end of life, trauma, and grief, as well as leading talks and retreats for those experiencing grief. Despite his knowledge, his life was upended by the sudden death of his twenty-one-year-old son. How does the grief expert handle such a tragic loss? He knew he had to find a way through this unexpected, devastating loss, a way that would honor his son. That, ultimately, was the sixth state of grief—meaning. In Finding Meaning, Kessler shares the insights, collective wisdom, and powerful tools that will help those experiencing loss. Finding Meaning is a necessary addition to grief literature and a vital guide to healing from tremendous loss. This is an inspiring, deeply intelligent must-read for anyone looking to journey away from suffering, through loss, and towards meaning.

Every Young Man's Battle

Every Young Man's Battle
Author: Stephen Arterburn
Publisher: WaterBrook
Total Pages: 338
Release: 2009-08-18
Genre: Young Adult Nonfiction
ISBN: 0307457990

Can any young man escape the lure of sexual temptation in today's world? You're surrounded by sex constantly--in movies, on TV, video games, music, the Internet. Is it any wonder that it feels impossible to stay sexually pure? How do men survive the relentless battle against the onslaught of lust? With powerful ammunition. The authors of the hard-hitting mega-bestseller Every Man’s Battle know the temptations young men face every day. The fact is, you can achieve victory over sexual compromise. Every Young Man’s Battle shows you how to rise above today's debased, self-seeking culture by examining God's standard, training your eyes and mind, cleaning up your thought life, and developing a plan. With extensive updates for a new generation of men, this is the award-winning guide to practical resistance. Bottom line: these strategies are biblical and they have worked for millions of men. Experience real hope for living the way God designed. Enter the battle. Includes comprehensive workbook for individual and group study.

A Man's Guide to Healthy Aging

A Man's Guide to Healthy Aging
Author: Edward H. Thompson Jr.
Publisher: JHU Press
Total Pages: 604
Release: 2013-11-25
Genre: Health & Fitness
ISBN: 1421410575

Explores all aspects of health as men reach middle age and beyond. As they reach middle age, most men begin looking forward to "what's next." They gear up to experience renewed productivity and purpose and are more conscious of their health. A Man's Guide to Healthy Aging is an authoritative resource for them, and for older men, as well. In collaboration with a variety of medical experts, the authors provide a comprehensive guide to healthy aging from a man's perspective. Edward H. Thompson, Jr., and Lenard W. Kaye—a medical sociologist and a gerontologist and social worker—offer invaluable information in four parts: • "Managing Our Lives" describes the actions men can take to stay healthy. Here is information about how to eat well, reduce stress, and stay active for better overall health. • "Mind and Body" considers how physical health and state of mind are connected. It explores sleep, drug and alcohol use, spirituality, and attitudes about appearance—and explains how all of these factors affect mental health. • "Bodily Health" examines how body systems function and what changes may occur as men age. It covers the body from head to toe and reviews how to manage chronic diseases such as cancer, diabetes, and heart conditions. • "Living with Others" shows the importance of interacting with friends and family. Topics include sexual intimacy, friendship, and caregiving, as well as how men can make the best decisions about end-of-life issues for themselves and their loved ones. Refuting the ageist stereotype that men spend their later years "winding down," this book will help men reinvent themselves once, twice, or more—by managing their health, creating new careers, and contributing their skills and experiences to their communities.