Loving from the Outside In, Mourning from the Inside Out

Loving from the Outside In, Mourning from the Inside Out
Author: Alan D. Wolfelt
Publisher: Companion Press
Total Pages: 96
Release: 2012-04-01
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 1617221848

Recognizing how the need to grieve is anchored in one’s capacity to care for someone, this calming guide contends that the act of mourning is healthy—and necessary—following a life-changing loss. The very foundation of attachment is reflected upon, illustrating devotion as both the primary cause of grief and a crucial source of emotional recovery. Exploring the essential principles of love as well as the reasons behind it, this heartfelt handbook makes it possible to embrace a trying but vital process.

The Journey Through Grief

The Journey Through Grief
Author: Alan D. Wolfelt
Publisher: Companion Press
Total Pages: 57
Release: 2003-09-01
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 1617220973

This spiritual companion for mourners affirms their need to mourn and invites them to journey through their very unique and personal grief. Detailed are the six needs that all mourners must yield to and eventually embrace if they are to go on to find continued meaning in life and living, including the need to remember the deceased loved one and the need for support from others. Short explanations of each mourning need are followed by brief, spiritual passages that, when read slowly and reflectively, help mourners work through their unique thoughts and feelings. Also included in this revised edition are journaling sections for mourners to write out their personal responses to each of the six needs. This replaces 1879651114.

Companioning You!

Companioning You!
Author: Alan D Wolfelt
Publisher: Companion Press
Total Pages: 129
Release: 2012-11-01
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1617221694

Based on Dr. Wolfelt's unique and highly regarded philosophy of "companioning" versus treating mourners, this self-care guide for professional and lay grief caregivers emphasizes the importance of taking good care of oneself as a precursor to taking good care of others. Bereavement care is draining work, and remaining empathetic to the painful struggles of mourners, death, and dying, day in and day out, makes caregivers highly susceptible to burnout. This book demonstrates how caring for oneself first allows one to be a more effective caregiver to others. Through the advice, suggestions, and practices directed specifically to caregiving situations and needs, caregivers will learn not to lose sight of caring for themselves as they care for others.

The Paradoxes of Mourning

The Paradoxes of Mourning
Author: Alan D. Wolfelt
Publisher: Companion Press
Total Pages: 130
Release: 2015-07-01
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 1617222224

When it comes to healing after the death of someone loved, our culture has it all wrong. We're told to be strong when what we really need is to be vulnerable. We're told to think positive when what we really need is to wallow in the pain. And we're told to seek closure when what we really need is to welcome our natural and necessary grief. Dr. Wolfelt's new book seeks to dispel these misconceptions that we hold on to so tightly and help people everywhere mourn well so they can live fuller lives. The Paradoxes of Mourning discusses three truths that grieving people used to know and respect but in the last century, seem to have forgotten: 1. You must make friends with the darkness before you can enter the light. 2. You must go backward before you can go forward. 3. You must say hello before you can say goodbye. In the tradition of the Four Agreements and the Seven Habits, this compassionate and inspiring guidebook by North America's most beloved grief counselor gives you the three keys that unlock the door to hope and healing.

Understanding Grief

Understanding Grief
Author: Alan Wolfelt
Publisher: Routledge
Total Pages: 218
Release: 2013-06-17
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 1135059292

This classic resource helps guide the bereaved person through the loss of a loved one, and provides an opportunity to learn to live with and work through the personal grief process.

Inside Out and Outside in

Inside Out and Outside in
Author: Joan Berzoff
Publisher: Jason Aronson
Total Pages: 482
Release: 2008
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 9780765704313

With its simple, respectful, user-friendly tone, the first edition of Inside Out and Outside In quickly became a beloved book among mental health practitioners in a variety of disciplines. The second edition continues in this tradition with chapters revised to reflect the most current theory and clinical practice. In addition, it offers exciting new chapters, on attachment, relational, and intersubjective theories, respectively, as well as on trauma.

Eight Critical Questions for Mourners

Eight Critical Questions for Mourners
Author: Alan D Wolfelt
Publisher: Companion Press
Total Pages: 176
Release: 2010-03-01
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 1617221090

Confronting the “little griefs” that can occur in the course of a lifetime, this handbook seeks to relieve the inevitable burden of loss. Taking the “wilderness experience” into account—being disconnected from oneself and the outside world—this guide presents 12 vital questions, the answers to which encourage the choice between deciding to live and letting sadness take control. Delving into the possibilities behind integrating sorrow into one's life, this study is the road map to exploring and honoring the transformational nature of grief.

The Paradoxes of Mourning

The Paradoxes of Mourning
Author: Alan D. Wolfelt
Publisher: Companion Press
Total Pages: 130
Release: 2015-07-01
Genre: Body, Mind & Spirit
ISBN: 1617222240

When it comes to healing after the death of someone loved, our culture has it all wrong. We're told to be strong when what we really need is to be vulnerable. We're told to think positive when what we really need is to wallow in the pain. And we're told to seek closure when what we really need is to welcome our natural and necessary grief. Dr. Wolfelt's new book seeks to dispel these misconceptions that we hold on to so tightly and help people everywhere mourn well so they can live fuller lives. The Paradoxes of Mourning discusses three truths that grieving people used to know and respect but in the last century, seem to have forgotten: 1. You must make friends with the darkness before you can enter the light. 2. You must go backward before you can go forward. 3. You must say hello before you can say goodbye. In the tradition of the Four Agreements and the Seven Habits, this compassionate and inspiring guidebook by North America's most beloved grief counselor gives you the three keys that unlock the door to hope and healing.

Healing a Child's Grieving Heart

Healing a Child's Grieving Heart
Author: Alan D. Wolfelt
Publisher: Companion Press
Total Pages: 130
Release: 2001-04-01
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1617220426

A compassionate resource for friends, parents, relatives, teachers, volunteers, and caregivers, this series offers suggestions to help the grieving cope with the loss of a loved one. Often people do not know what to say—or what not to say—to someone they know who is mourning; this series teaches that the most important thing a person can do is listen, have compassion, be there for support, and do something helpful. This volume addresses what to expect from grieving young people, and how to provide safe outlets for children to express emotion. Included in each book are tested, sensitive ideas for “carpe diem” actions that people can take right this minute—while still remaining supportive and honoring the mourner’s loss.