MANNERS CONVEY RESPECT, CONSIDERATION, AND HONESTY (COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY) You’ve only got one chance to make a good first impression! Manners are one of the greatest engines of influence ever given to man. Your appearance is your visual resume. TIPS: 55% of what is conveyed comes from body language, 38% from tonner of voice, and 6% from what is said. These three factors are important for the first impression. The EYES are windows to the soul. The key to knowing, consider the context of the eye contact; If one never takes eyes off you it could suggest a romantic relationship or interest. If one looks down it can mean they are hiding something or nervous Someone so still not even blinking it means might be lying or making up something. EYEBROWS; 3 main gestures Surprised seen by lighting eyebrows Fearing is seen by eyebrows down Uncomfortable seen by …. SMILE; eyes can lie but a smile doesn’t lie. Without circles at the end of the eye, someone is hiding something, not genuine. What they say …one talking about spouse or workmate they might be a decent person yet talking good about others might have some good traits the opposite is also true. Paralanguage; non-verbal communication through; Mona-tone means not interested in your conversation Sarcasm; not interested at all. SIDE GLANCE; warm person and open to meeting you and will be interested in what you are saying and looks in your eyes. if they glance to the side it means they are not interested and thus looking for an escape. FREQUENT NODDING; Nodding means someone agrees with you But excessive nodding means an excuse to let you move on but worried about what you are saying. CHIN AND JAW; making a decision by rubbing your chin, and looking up and down means one is deep in thought also looking down with a clenched jaw might be depressed, and conversation heading to something disturbing them. POSTURE; Walking upwards with straight shoulder means one feels good about themselves Shoulder downwards means one is not confident or depressed. RUBBING HANDS; broadcast what the head is thinking like positive feelings, hope, excited. HANDSHAKES; Soft and flatly means submissive and likes to push over To hard means, one is too serious To long means, one is wired In short means, one is there is no connection or conflict, or no time. LEANING IN OR AWAY; Towards you means interested in what you, a sign of respect or confide in you (trustworthy) Lean away means uncomfortable. HOLDING BABY; means one is a happy mummy if holding the baby in the right arm. CROSSED LEG AND ARMS; physical barrier not open to what you are saying mentally and physically. FEET FACING YOU; means one is interested in what you are saying ii) If one is facing away means one is not interested and wants to go away. TYPES OF SHOES WORN; New and clean shoes are for organized people at times nervous people Dirty shoes mean one is shabby and disorganized Boot shoes are for aggressive people. OVERALL APPEARANCE; Intelligent, clean hair shows style Smell ambits mean one is lazy COPYING BODY LANGUAGE; good about you so copy your body language. GENERALLY Be yourself, say:” Thank you”, saying Please, greet others, share, have Self-control, apologize, Don’t be boastful, Arrogant, Listen before speaking, Speak with kindness, Don’t criticize, Don’t embarrass others, act and look your best, open for your lady the door, Don’t pee in an open place, chew when the mouth is closed, blow your nose with a handkerchief, and many other ideas of discipline/manners.